I Do! Invitations and Announcements

I Do! Invitations and Announcements

The first impression of an event begins with the invitation!


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What do I need? Outer or Inner and Outer Envelopes? (My Mom says I need both.)

Posted on May 12, 2020 at 9:25 AM Comments comments (0)

The inner and outer envelope is a tradition.

Years ago mailmen traveled around on horseback, not in trucks, and chances are that your wedding invitation would arrive at their destination dusty, wet, or damaged was highly likely. To ensure it looked presentable, the outer envelope was removed by a butler, maid, or someone else in the household before being presented to the potential guest.

 Difference between inner and outer envelopes.

If you get just outer envelopes it is addressed to the guest and mailing address. And if you get inner and outer envelopes it is addressed exactly to who is invited to the wedding. (Inner envelopes do not get sealed.)

 If you decide to do inner and outer envelopes:

-You can be very clear on who is being invited to your wedding if you use an inner and outer envelope. Inner envelopes help eliminate the potential for any awkward questions about who is invited.

-Having both envelopes are more traditional. If you are having a black tie, classic or formal wedding you may want to have both envelopes to abide by wedding etiquette.

Samples of how they’d be addressed:

Outer Envelope – Mr. and Mrs. Mark Osiecki, Inner Envelope – Mr. and Mrs. Osiecki

Outer Envelope – Osiecki Family, Inner Envelope – Mr. and Mrs. Osiecki, second line - Matthew

The names of children under 18 years old should appear on the inner envelope on the line beneath Mom and Dad's. Start with the oldest child, followed by his or her siblings in order of diminishing age; for anyone 18 or older in a household, send a separate invitation.

Outer Envelope – Matthew Cattie, Inner Envelope – Mr. Cattie and Guest

If you decide to do just outer envelopes:

Put the outer envelope to work by listing the names of every person invited to the wedding. Avoid writing "and Family," which is too vague and could mean extra guests showing up at the wedding whom you weren't expecting or can't afford.

There's no right or wrong way.

If you like the tradition, go for both, but if you worry that an extra envelope is a strike against the environment or an added expense, just use the outer one. It is truly up to you. There's no rule that says you need both inner and outer envelopes, and most guests won't realize you are or are not following tradition.

Either way we will guide you on how to address each envelope with the correct etiquette. And we are always here for any questions!



Rush Printing

Posted on May 7, 2020 at 10:40 AM Comments comments (0)

Short answer - Yes.  Anything can be rushed.

Side note - There will be an additional charge.

Do we need to send out new invitations?

Posted on May 4, 2020 at 7:05 AM Comments comments (0)

Question - We sent out invitations for our April wedding at the beginning of March and at the end of March had to postpone to the end of June. We sent “change the date” but we didn’t know what would be happening. 

We are hoping to have a cermony and reception at the end of June. Do we have to send new invitations? Is there something simpler we can do to make sure people know our plans and RSVP?


Answer - You do not need to send out new invitations. You already set the stage with your beautiful invitations that you already sent out.


Some things you can do are:

-Send a postcard with the basic information and your wedding website (get one for free if you don't have one already on The Knot, Wedding Wire or Zola). They can RSVP on-line. You could also add a phone number and/or email address to rsvp too (depending on your demographics of your guests). 


-You could also send a Seal n' Send invitation. (See my You Tube video about Seal 'n Sends.) You could send a lot more information then the postcard and get a postcard reply back. (.55 cents to send the seal 'n send and .35 for the postcard reply stamp).


-You could (or have parents help) and call guests to tell them the new information.


-You could email your guests or start a Facebook group for updates.


Posted on May 1, 2020 at 12:25 AM Comments comments (0)

I can tell you that we have an affordable style line and this is where you will find invitations that start around $200. (For 100 invitations.)

And then the sky is the limit!  If you can dream it, we can do it!


You can look at some other lines by clicking here and here.

 Things to keep in mind that affect the price:


-Are you getting married at your venue (if so you do not need a reception card)

-Type of printing (digital, raised print, letterpress)

-Type of paper (smooth, shimmer and the thickness)

-Do you want them addressed to your guests ($1 per envelope)

Tell us what you are looking for and we can get you an estimate for you.

Also, no matter which invitation you select I will help you with every step and wedding etiquette guidance!

How to Postpone a Wedding

Posted on March 19, 2020 at 7:40 AM Comments comments (0)

By Carlson Craft


We can only imagine how disappointing current events are for all couples getting married in the next two months. The coronavirus has turned so many things upside down, and now you’re left choosing how to move forward.


Should we reduce our guest count or postpone the wedding?


Of course, the answer depends on the couple and what they feel is most important to them as well as whether or not vendors will refund money or be flexible. Read our post from Friday called Wedding Planning: Addressing the Unexpected for some helpful tips.


Once you’ve decided what you want to do, the next step is communicating it. If you’re postponing your wedding, traditional wedding etiquette says to send out printed announcements but the use of technology is completely acceptable. If you choose to send announcements, you can send reception cards with the appropriate wording (see below) but make sure the announcement gets to recipients at least two weeks before the wedding date. If you choose to use email, Facebook or some other form of technology, you can use the same wording.


Wedding Postponement Wording


We are writing to inform you

 that the wedding of Anna Wilkinson and Cameron Baker

 has been moved due to recent events

 to Saturday, the eighth of October

 so we can celebrate without current restrictions

 we wish you good health

 in the coming months!


If you have decide to reduce your guest count, consider this wording.

 Reducing Guest Count Wording


We regret to inform you

 that due to current events

 the guest list for the wedding of

 Anna Wilkinson and Cameron Baker

 will be reduced to accommodate

 current recommendations from the CDC

 please know we were so excited

 to celebrate with each of you

 and hope to do so in some other fashion

 in the very near future

 until then we wish you good health

 in the coming months!


No doubt, this is a tough decision! Some couples may feel strongly that they want to celebrate with everyone on their list or they may find they simply can’t reschedule at the same venue within the year. Postponing is a great option for both reasons. Other couples may feel that the most important thing is simply saying their vows and they’re happy to do that with 10 people or 200. Do what’s right for you, and remember that your wedding will still be incredibly special no matter what changes may come.

The Best Way to Explain Why Someone Isn't Invited to Your Wedding

Posted on January 18, 2020 at 12:40 AM Comments comments (1)

Here's how to handle that friend who won't stop asking where their invite is.

by Rachel Torgerson

One of the hardest aspects of planning a wedding is figuring out the guest list. Feeling like you can only invite a small percentage of your acquaintances to such an important life event can be extremely difficult, especially if you need to face the friends you can't or won't invite between now and your wedding day.


When it comes down to it, friends experience relationships in different ways — someone may feel close to you, despite years out of touch, when you don't feel close to them at all. That's what makes this topic such a delicate one. Under no circumstance do you want someone who isn't invited to feel like you are cutting them out of your life because they didn't receive an invite to your wedding.


But there's a general thing you can say that helps soften the blow every time. It works like a charm because it's true and it also makes the person you're asking look bad if they persist. What's the trick? Tell whoever is asking you that you wish you could celebrate with everyone you know -- that would be so fun! But, because your budget is tight, or because the space is limited, you had to keep things smaller than you initially wanted. Pretty easy, right?


Here's how it works in pretty much every scenario:


The Scenario: A friend you haven't kept in touch with

The Scene: Most likely, this person knows that you've fallen out of touch, but they might want to get back in touch with you for the purpose of getting invited to the wedding. This is typically pretty transparent. They'll reach out to you after you get engaged, like all of your engagement photos and send you a well-meaning message congratulating you and "catching up." This could be entirely sincere — they may have seen you pop up in their newsfeed and just genuinely want to know how you've been. Either way, you've got a situation on your hands. Someone who you genuinely like and have felt close to is reaching out again, and you'd love to include them, but budget-wise or space-wise you just can't afford to invite them.


The Script: Stick with the simple truth: You're so happy they reached out to you, and excited to get back in touch. Fill them in on your life since you last spoke and ask them questions about theirs. If they ask you about the wedding, tell them about the budget and space constraints, but make it clear that you still want to hang out soon to celebrate and catch up even more. Say that you'd love to make a trip out of seeing them with your new spouse (if they live far away) or you'd love to have a couples night to celebrate the wedding with them to make them feel special (if they live in town).


So, what happens next?


These are your friends, no matter how long it has been since they last talked to you. They'll be excited to see you happy, and they'll be understanding. The fact that you can't invite them will blow over, and they'll still want to catch up later on.


The Scenario: A boss or coworker

The Scene: Clearly you're going to have to deal with your boss and coworkers on a fairly consistent basis up until the day of your wedding. Just to be conversational, they'll ask you questions about your planning process, and that's normal. But as your wedding date gets closer, they may start to hint that they want to come to the wedding. If you're not close to your coworkers, or you simply don't have the budget to invite everyone from work that you like, first thing's first: You don't have to invite anyone from work. The second thing to keep in mind: Inviting one person from work doesn't mean you have to invite everyone.


The Script: Now that we've cleared the air, how in the world do you keep the peace at work and explain things to the people who aren't invited? Yep! It's time to give them the line about your budget. If it seems like a broken record, that's only on your end. No matter how many people ask you about being invited to your wedding, this answer always works simply because it is true.


So, what happens next?


Now, schedule an after-work happy hour post-honeymoon and everyone will be satisfied.


The Scenario: A relative you aren't close to

The Scene: This is a tougher one, because it involves family, and while you may not be particularly close to a relative of yours, inviting them might mean a lot to your parents, or other close relatives. In this case, the person you have to reason with is your parents (or whomever you think could potentially have a problem with you not inviting this relative). It becomes especially important to explain yourself to them if they're the ones paying (which means they have the right to invite the guests they want to invite).


Take your parents to a lunch and explain your thought process. Was there a falling out? Have you not spoken in a while? Many times, even if you're not as close to a family member, you have to have a pretty good reason not to invite them to a wedding. We're not talking about second cousins here, but first cousins, aunts, uncles and the like are pretty typical A-listers when it comes to wedding invitations. This just means you'll have to jump through a few hoops to get off the hook of inviting them.


The Script: Don't talk about budget and space issues with your parents, they know that there are very real other reasons as to why you don't want to invite this particular relative and you just have to sort it out between the two of you. If there's ever a moment where this relative confronts you about not receiving an invite, that's the time to talk budget and space.


So, what happens next?


If they ask you why so-and-so relative is invited, and they aren't, you'll have to get your parents involved so they can put out fires. The last thing you want to do is get caught in the middle of family drama during your planning process. Since your parents may have a better relationship with this relative anyway, this conversation is probably best coming from them. If things get resolved peacefully, you can be extra nice to them at the next family reunion and introduce them to your new spouse in a friendly way.

Bridal Shower Etiquette

Posted on August 31, 2019 at 7:25 AM Comments comments (1)



Though there’s no fixed rule on who hosts the bridal shower, these days, it’s often thrown by the bridesmaids, a close friend, or close female relatives. Sometimes work colleagues opt to throw a separate shower organized at the office; additionally, future in-laws may want to host a get-together to make introductions. The key is to let individual circumstances be your guide when determining who should serve as host.


The bridal shower usually takes place anytime between six months to a week before the wedding; it’s important to check with the bride first on any preferred party dates and times. Also, if depending on where most of the guests live, you may need to schedule it far in advance so everyone can make travel plans.

It’s also a good idea for the host to get the bride’s approval on the bridal shower theme, which signals to guests what kind of gifts to bring—i.e., lingerie, linens, kitchen or baking accessories, or camping equipment—and if she’s created a gift registry. Or, in lieu of gifts, brides may opt for donations to a favorite charity.


When it comes to the invitation list, let the couple weigh in and provide you with a guest list and each person’s email and mailing address. Everyone invited to the bridal shower should also be invited to the wedding.


The next step is for the host to select bridal shower invitations that will set the tone for the entire party. The invitations should be mailed six to eight weeks before the shower date, depending on how many out-of-town guests are on the invite list. Aside from containing all necessary information—date, time, location—invitations might ask guests to bring memories of the bride to share during a toast, or early photos of the guest of honor to post on a pinboard. Make sure guests RSVP to one person (the maid of honor, for example), to keep numbers organized. Also, spread the word about where the bride is registered by including this information on the bridal shower invitation.


If the soon-to-be-weds prefer to celebrate together, a couples shower includes both their families and friends. While there are no set rules around this shower idea, keep in mind the co-ed guest list when planning the theme, menu, and activities, and make it clear on the invitation so guests know what to expect.


Showers are fun for everyone when the guests have something to do. If the party theme revolves around desserts, ask guests to bring their favorite sweet treat to share or a bottle of bubbly. If it’s going to be an afternoon luncheon, then build the menu around a theme and invite guests each contribute a dish. To avoid getting too many appetizers and not enough main courses, keep track of who's bringing what (via a shared Google spreadsheet, perhaps). Throwing a cooking-themed shower? Ask guests to email favorite recipes ahead of time along with a photo; then combine everyone’s contributions into a meaningful shower cookbook for the bride to take home.


Whatever the venue, the best decorations are simple, like elegant floral arrangements on the main tables and fun gold or silver mylar balloons spelling out “love” or the bride’s names. If you’re planning to give guests a party favor, think of something that works double-duty–say, a scented candle that you can tie each guest’s place card around, or a potted succulent that doubles as an escort card.


Finally, it's good form (and a big help for the bride) to ask several people at the shower to help the bride keep track of gifts. The best way? Create a gift-opening assembly line—here’s how it works. One person brings the bride a gift to open (and then takes the opened gift to a designated spot where it will later be packed in the car); another friend can dispose of the torn wrapping paper while another gathers ribbons to create the traditional rehearsal bridal bouquet; lastly, another friend needs to keep a list of who gave what gift so the bride does not have to rely on her memory when writing thank-yous. It’s also a thoughtful touch if the host provides the bride with a list of all the attendees and their addresses at the end of the party, along with a box of thank you cards.


Our handy guide to throwing a fabulous wedding shower

3+ months in advance:

Coordinate with the bride or couple on the shower date and guest list. Check with important guests like bridesmaids and close family members to avoid any scheduling conflicts, as well as any out of town guests who may need to arrange travel.

Coordinate with the bride or couple on the theme. They may have ideas for the kind of celebration they would like (or wouldn’t like).

Decide on a party venue. Arrange any restaurant reservations or park permits well in advance; if you’d like to host the party in someone’s home—say, the bride’s aunt’s house or at her cousin’s—then be sure to make arrangements with the homeowner well in advance.

2 months in advance:

Enlist the bridal party to help plan the decorations, activities, and menu. Delegate tasks like contacting vendors, creating a playlist, and bringing specific dishes.

1 month in advance:

Order and send bridal shower invitations. Include registry info or the theme to help guests choose a gift, as well as anything else they should bring, such as photos, food or drinks, or letters for the guest of honor.

Buy or make decorations and favors.

Order thank-you cards for the bride.

Two weeks in advance:

Order flowers.

Rent or borrow servingware, audio equipment, extra tables and chairs, and anything necessary for your planned activity.

Buy a gift.

One week in advance:

Buy ingredients for food and drinks.

Confirm deliveries, reservations, and RSVPs.

The day before

Prep food and decorations.

Confirm with guests what they’re bringing.

Run any last-minute errands.

At the shower:

Keep track of gifts for the bride—save the guest list and addresses for thank-you cards.

Save ribbons to create a bow bouquet for the bride to use at the ceremony rehearsal.

Bridal Showers Ideas

Posted on August 31, 2019 at 7:20 AM Comments comments (0)

5 Fun Bridal Shower Ideas!

Wine Tasting

Arrange to have the shower at a local wine store or invite a supplier to pour for you at your home. Serve great cheeses and breads and give guests engraved wine glasses as favors.

5K Shower

Are the bride and groom avid runners? Host the shower on the day of a local 5K! Dress up so the other runners know you’re celebrating – a veil for the bride, a tux t-shirt for the groom, sashes and funny bow ties for the bridal party and friends.

Crafty Shower

When the bride loves to scrapbook and craft, throw a shower filled with creative fun! Buy lots of new craft supplies, gather at a friend’s house, and have each guest create a scrapbook page for the bride commemorating the event.

Cooking Class

Does the bride love to cook? Arrange for a cooking class for her bridal shower! Invite a local chef to come over and teach everyone to cook a simple, delicious meal. Gift the bride with unusual, gourmet kitchen tools and cookbooks.

Holiday Decorating

Make sure the couple's first Christmas together is a beautiful one by throwing them a holiday decorating shower. Ask guests to bring gifts of ornaments, garland, candles and other Christmas decoration for the couple.

Bridal Show Tips

Posted on November 19, 2018 at 7:30 AM Comments comments (2)

Bridal Show season is going to start again soon and you need to be ready! They are a one-stop shopping – like a Google search, but Live!


Set up an e-mail just for the wedding-related correspondence. It can be something like [email protected] The wedding e-mail address will help you keep all your wedding planning information together.

Bring a sheet of pre-printed address labels. Put your name, Groom’s name, wedding date, address, and e-mail address. Bridal shows have you sign up for information or to win contests so have the labels ready and it saves you from writer’s cramp!

Pre-register for the show. By doing that you might be able to get a discount on the tickets (or free) and save time getting into the show.


Pack a bag to put all the information you can pick up. You might be given a bag when you arrive but sometimes having your own works out better.

Wear comfortable shoes. Some of the shows are in large convention space and you will be on your feet, covering a lot of ground, so wear comfortable shoes to keep your feet happy.

Have a budget and open mind. The wedding industry is a creative bunch always coming up with something exciting and new. Take the time to check out these services to see if they would be something to incorporate in your special day.


Take notes and pictures. You want to remember who you talked with and whose services impressed you even if you are not ready to book right away. The more information you have the easier it will be for you to remember what you liked.

Enter to win! Wedding professionals provide real prizes which are generally geared around weddings so definitely enter to win! (Use those labels!)

Follow up with companies you like. Companies are there to talk to the Bride in person and want to help you achieve your dream wedding by providing quality service. Their calendars, especially after a Bridal Show, book up quickly, so if you see or speak to someone you are interested in follow up with them after the show to schedule an appointment.

Essential Oils benefits before your wedding

Posted on May 23, 2018 at 8:50 AM Comments comments (1)

Did you know that essential oils can be a great natural tool in the months leading up to your wedding? Stress relief and calming anxious feelings, glowing and clear skin, long beautiful hair growth, energy, a restful night’s sleep, boosting the metabolism and curbing cravings to shed those last few extra pounds, and even promoting feelings of love!

Lauren Cattie, an essential oils educator with Young Living Essential Oils, has helped I Do! Invitations and Announcements discover and experience all of these amazing results that essential oils can offer, so we wanted to share this with you!

For more information: contact Lauren Cattie at [email protected] or 484-883-6632!

She has an essential oils education group, and does free online classes monthly to help you learn!